Mindfulness practise helps us to disengage from being consumed and compelled by the question: What am I supposed to do now? Mindfulness practise involves simply identifying our body / felt response in the very moment of feeling confronted by a perceived threat. A perceived threat moment can be the blank-bored eyes of a seemingly disinterested child if you are a teacher or parent. It can be the rejecting stare of a lover or employer in flight. Mindfulness practise involves awareness of one’s body felt response in that perceived-threat moment without recourse to usefulness. It is just awareness for its own sake. Therefore, there is no judgement about relevance of the awareness consciously linking the awareness back to the question: what do I do now? Mindfulness creates a space for your unconscious sense of safety and common sense to inform action in that nothingness or no-agenda space.

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Do opposites really attract?

Recent studies have found that people are more likely to be attracted to and pursue romantic relationships with individuals who are more like themselves across a broad range of personal characteristics, including age, religion, political orientation, and certain aspects of intelligence.
However it is also valid to say we fall in love with the person who has what we perceive to be deficient in ourselves. We seek to negotiate our needs in the world via the other and this is arousing.

Opposites may attract, but do they stick together?

Recently, psychologists at the University of Illinois wanted to know whether couples who are more similar in terms of personality are more satisfied in their relationships than those who are dissimilar.
They recruited couples in romantic relationships and over the course of a year had the participants complete a range of psychological tests every few months.
Couples who shared similar personalities in terms of agreeableness and moderately similar in terms of emotional stability were more satisfied in their relationships. Partners possessing similar traits of extraversion, conscientiousness, and openness did not result relationship satisfaction.
The psychologists concluded that having similar personality traits to your partner does not necessarily mean your relationship will be more satisfying.

What to do when opposites pull apart?

Like many relationship psychologists, John Bacash often hears couples complain about the very traits that attracted them to one another in the first place. Blaming the other for the very thing one finds attractive about them is very confusing. This sense of confusion can lead to increased frustration, fanning the flames of discord and unhappiness.

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Using a variety of proven counselling and therapeutic techniques, John Bacash helps you to understand these complex and interwoven issues of attraction and compatibility. Over the course of your relationship counselling you will learn to remove blame, and to recognise and enjoy what attracted you to one another initially, and which draws you back together.

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